Staying On The Assertiveness Ladder
Confidence is a key component of assertiveness and vice-versa. For some, confidence is also hard to acquire and easy to lose. So, it's useful to begin to understand some of the elements that can increase your confidence: what is it you'd like to be confident about?
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- I have the right to say no
- I have the right to ask questions
- I have the right to express my opinions
- I have the right to make my own mistakes
- I have the right to put my own need in front of others
- I have the right to ask for help and support when I need it
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It's also important to remember that this is an "Upwards/Downwards/Sideways" process that can be used with colleagues across the organisation. Upwards intimidation happens too!
Here Are Some Questions for You:
If you are not being heard, you are going to suppress some really important ideas and feelings; if this happens:
- What impact does it have on you?
- What impact does it have on your team?
- What impact does it have on the quality of your work?
- What impact does it have on your happiness and well-being?
- What impact does it have on your family and friends?
My rights
- I have the right to:-"Challenge Ray when he sets short deadlines"
- I have the right to:-"Turn off my work mobile at 7.pm/ leave it off until 7.30 a.m
- I have the right to:-"Be given time to develop my ideas and be heard"
So here are 3 prompts to get you thinking:-
- What would you out on your "Rights List"?
- What would you prioritise?
- If things changed for the better, what would you notice?
Good luck! And if you'd like to know more you can contact us at jpd@dy3solutions.mygbiz.com You can find out more about our work on our web-site www.dy-3solutions.co.uk
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