There's a view (and it's a lop-sided one) of compromise that it's about
"By and large, getting what you want."
And whereas this might in some cases be true, compromise is also about
"Getting or keeping something you didn't want."
As mediators we often find that our work is more akin to conflict resolution that might or might not require a formal mediation. Sometimes we need to adopt a different approach, one that is based on a really useful and well researched model which asks us to think about our individual and preferred approaches to conflict: here we go!
- Competing: "I win, end of story"
- Avoiding: "Just what is says-I avoid conflict -sometimes at my own cost"
- Accommodating: Learn to live with it."
- Compromise: "We're going to have to accept something we don't want in order to get to a place where we can achieve what it is we do want"
- Collaborating: "We're going to have to work through this in an organised and structured way"
We're going to expand on these over the next few weeks. In the meantime, we'd love to hear from you if you feel we can help!